You Know What, Girl? It's Not Our Fault.
We don't need to take the blame for the shitty way men act. We do enough covering for their behavior.
Ok, look, I can attest to the fact that I am a terrible judge of men. I am a people fixer, so I look at heaps of utter trash and think I can make a shit sculpture. However, at the end of the day, what do I have? That’s right, just trash in a neatly sorted pile.
Tonight, I read an article by a woman, blaming other women for the behavior of men on online dating platforms. She was telling a story of how she was communicating with a guy who was clearly testing her boundaries as to how physical she would get with him. After ascertaining that the dude was simply looking to get laid, she goes on to blame women for his behavior.
Um. Fuck you, sis. How about that?
Nothing that another woman has done to that man, for that man, or with that man is an excuse for him just trying to hit and quit your ass. He has the choice to be a good guy, he’s choosing not to. That isn’t another womans fault. That is his fault, and his fault alone.
I mean, according to your logic, since I had 2 vodka tonics two weeks ago, he could drink and drive tonight and I would be at fault. Apparently I made bringing vodka tonics into the mix alright.
Now how fucking stupid does that sound? Exactly.
Ladies, we have taken enough of the blame for the terrible way that men treat us. It has to stop. They make enough excuses for themselves, and we don’t need to help them out. Do you want to know whose fault a man’s behavior is?
It is the fault of that man, and that man alone.
By accepting responsibility for being stupid enough to be manipulated by some dime store Casanova, we’re saying that they don’t need to feel sorry for lying about their intentions and pulling some one night stand bullshit. If only we were smarter, if only we could have picked up on the cues, the flags, the real intentions.
You know what? Fuck you, dude.
Own your own bullshit. You’re a liar, plain and simple, and no woman is responsible for that. You are. Stop trying to pawn the fact that you’re a worthless ass dude on the woman who was trying to believe you were a decent guy. She simply gave you too much credit. The fact that you weren’t worth it, that’s your fault, not hers.
There's a fb group called "Imagine being a woman who participates in your own oppression." I believe you'd love it.
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