First, and foremost, everyone give Brian Gee a big congratulations on his promotion. I know it’s like the 4th one in six months, but Big Unc makes big moves. Y’all know he won’t stop until he’s literally the boss of everyone. I’m good with it, his supervisory skills don’t really leave too much to be desired. We’ll roll with it.
Secondarily, I wanted to address something that I spoke about last night. I was doing what I do, harassing people on the interweb, etc. and a woman asked me a question over on Quora. It was along the lines of “does my boyfriend mean the things he says to me while drunk?”
Ok, first, ladies (and gentlemen, I’ve seen these sloppy ass drunk bitches out here), let me tell y’all, this is firsthand with me. I have bartended almost 20 years, but I was a functional alcoholic for 7. I know what I’m saying to you.
A drunk mouth says what a sober heart feels.
If your guy gets hammered and gets out of pocket running his mouth, there is truth in everything he is saying to you. Don’t let the drunk excuse allow you to overlook the behavior.
I further questioned the situation, because I’m a nosy ass broad, it’s what I do. She let me know he is self medicating anxiety. Y’all know I have PTSD, and I’m crazier than a damned sprayed roach. I can’t take pills now due to my former oxycodone addiction.
I don’t self medicate. I don’t medicate. I do breathing exercises. I focus on grounding myself. I have dogs.
These are healthy alternatives to cramming pills down my face, or drinking a fifth of Titos by 8pm.
I know not everyone is the same, but it’s about having power over your substances, and not the other way around. Anyone can stay completely fucked up all the time and find a way to function. You have to have the desire to be a willing participant in your own life.
Ladies, you deserve better than someone who gets sloppy nightly and bitches at you for whatever perceived slight you’ve allegedly committed.
Please, know that I understand shit is complex. It’s not always as simple as just sauntering out. But you have to value yourself enough to know, this isn’t the life you deserve. You deserve someone who is in control of their faculties. You deserve someone who doesn’t get hammered and mentally or physically abuse you.
Please stop settling for so much less.
Please do for yourself what they aren’t doing, and respect yourself enough to walk out if your relationship isn’t giving you what you need.
Congratulations boss! 🎉🎊
For me in the day it was a fifth of Black Jack by 10 pm. And yes, a drunk mouth spouts what a sober heart thinks..
Last: To Brian
Gee whizz boss man. Well DONE!