The Reason I Don’t Accept Incel Insults Posted In Comments
You may think it's ok to let people spout off anti-female rhetoric, but I never will.
Tonight, I was reminded by a female blog follower that a misogynist troll who essentially attempted to single-handedly oppress every woman I was in a conversation with should just be allowed to spout off. I should just ignore him. He should be permitted to degrade me, and all the other women who had spoken, and nobody should argue the ignorance he was rattling off as truth.
I wanted to grab her by the shoulders and shake her, in real life. If you want to be spoken to like a 1940’s housewife, by all means, feel free. That isn’t going to happen over here, not without one hell of a discussion. Why, ladies, why are we still overlooking this nonsense like it isn’t harmful? Why are we still treating it like it isn’t toxic sludge that will infect every mind it enters?
It is, and it does.
Why are we still being told that we “shouldn’t engage?”
I, for one, am tired of being told that I should ignore these hateful, anti-female rhetoric spouting fools that are plentiful, and getting more so by the day. Every time a woman tells me to “let it go” or “overlook” this ignorance, just let these guys say as they please without paying them any mind, it makes me want to scream.
What has ignoring this type of man done for us so far? We ignored peeping toms, then they grew into rapists. We ignored the signs in “troubled boys”, until they grew into abusive spouses.
I’m sick of the “head in the sand” method. The whole “pretend they’re not hurting your feelings” sentiment didn’t work for me in the 2nd grade, and it’s not doing anything for me now as a grown woman. Here’s why:
Every time I’m told to pipe down and take it, you’re saying to the man spouting off that he has a right to be heard, yet I don’t. He has a voice that won’t be silenced, whereas I still have to request permission to voice my opinion because it differs from his.
Every time I’m told that “it’s just for attention”, I’m reminded of how quickly this propaganda spreads. I can assure you that 6 million Jewish folks would go back and shove a fist in some jerks mouth, had they known then what all of that “attention-seeking” rhetoric would amount to. It takes one voice to be louder than the others, and that is going to be the voice that is heard.
I can’t allow that. I can’t allow the only person in the room speaking their mind to be a misogynist. I can’t allow the only voice heard to be that of a man trying to “keep a woman in her place”. I’m sorry, y’all, that shit just isn’t going to work for me.
And, to all of you women advising me to “just let it go”, let me remind you of this: We are still living in a society where it is a proven fact that yelling “rape” ensures you have almost no chance of assistance arriving in time to prevent an assault, but yelling “fire” will bring assistance 70% of the time. But you want me to stay over in the corner, wringing my hands, and what? Wishing for someone with more authority than myself to let this group of archaic douchebags run their mouths in an effort to look like they have a well thought out spiel?
No, thanks, girls. You feel free to sit over there and complain about how uncomfortable you feel hearing anti-female sentiments, but offer no voice against it. I’m going in a totally different direction. I’m going to engage. I’m going to voice my opinion on the topics at hand. I’m going to lend an opinion that isn’t garbage to this discussion, and I’m going to defend it because I am intelligent enough to do just that.
So, I’ll ask you, ladies. Please don’t. Don’t shush me. Don’t tell me it’s better to ignore the problem of proud incel type male behavior. It isn’t. It’s doing nothing to help us, and everything to push us back down into the pool of machismo led bullshit we just swam out of.
You broads feel free to just take it. I, on the other hand, am going to shout above the chauvinist chatter, every time, and it will always be to say “You won’t silence this woman. I will speak my mind, and you will hear my voice”.