Today, one of my neighbors explained to me how she would ask for help, but “you know, my pride”….
Uh, no baby, I don’t know. I don’t know how I would sit in my house with nothing to eat and nothing to feed my babies and explain it away as pride. That isn’t going to happen. I will be the first one to say, I have pride that is large and it gets in the way of me looking to someone for help. That said, there is a point, and that point, friends, is eating.
I’ll be damned if I’m going to sit here and starve to death because I’m ashamed to say I needed to ask for government assistance when my job was furloughed. That’s not a point of shame, baby, that’s just what is happening. That’s extenuating in the circumstance department. That’s shit that is beyond your control.
Asking for the state or the federal government to help you feed your kids right now doesn’t make you a bad mother. It makes you one of the millions of people that are suffering because nobody told us that this was going to take place, and we couldn’t do our usual plan for the worst. Listen, if your kids are hungry, I will be damned. I’ll come to your house right now and file your application for you before I let your pride make your kids go hungry.
Do you know what other dumb shit I heard? “Oh, if I file they’ll go after my baby’s daddy”…
Bitch, fuck your baby’s daddy today, ok. You have hungry children. You do what it takes, and I don’t give two hot damns what the blowback is for him. If you have to worry about them getting him for child support because you had to feed your kids, you have something wrong in your scenario, because if y’all aren’t together, he should be paying child support. Period.
Look, this isn’t the time to worry about anyone but those hungry kids, and it damned sure isn’t the time to be prideful. Girl, step outside of your little box for a second and think about exactly how ignorant this sounds.
Stop worrying about the dumb shit, and feed your children. Period.
Jesus. I can’t believe this is still the type of shit I have to say to people.
Amen girl! It's not about you mama, your pride, ego, what YOU look like to others..... YOU are the resource for these kids to get what they need! DB!! Wtfu!!
I agree with you. It is one thing to be prideful if it is just you and you choose not to eat rather than ask for help. Those babies didn't ask to be here. You do whatever you have to do to care for your kids. If that means swallowing your pride that is what.you.flippin.DO! There are church pantries, ask family, a neighbor and yeah screw the "Father" that isn't stepping up to feed his kids.