Never Doubt The Ability Of Those Not Worth Your Time To Make You Feel Horrible...
They do it so you don't realize you're good enough to leave them, duh.
Have you ever known a couple, and one of them was amazing, while the other was just a complete piece of shit? Like, I’m not even talking looks at this point, we’ll get to that. I’m talking, as a person, there was no way that dude who is a cheating, lying, no job having dickface deserved to be with that amazing chic.
I have known plenty of couples like this, and have been one of these couples several times. I’ll tell you exactly how it happens, too. At some point, either the chic was just freshly wounded from a breakup, or she has some self-esteem issues, and that dude could smell it. They’re like fucking sharks, just a single drop of blood and they’re devouring you.
That dude found her weak spot, and he exploited it. Telling her how this, that, or the third thing about her isn’t all that great, she could lose a few pounds, she isn’t really as smart as she thinks she is…there are so many key phrases they use, but it all amounts to the same. He’s slowly tearing her down. He’s making her think that maybe she isn’t all that great, maybe she could stand to get a little thinner.
And that’s how it gathers steam. It becomes a constant barrage of not good enough, a never-ending tale of how lucky she is he puts up with her, and how she is welcome to ruin someone else’s life if she doesn’t like the way he treats her. Then it’s every day, all day. Never anything kind, never anything genuine, just that prick walking all over her and constantly talking down to her.
We hope it stays that way, instead of the next escalation, which is physical abuse, but usually that piece of shit is going to hit her, too. It’s how it works with these fuckers, they just have to make someone feel small and treat someone like shit. It’s what they do and how they get their fucking rocks off.
I remember when it was me, when he was going behind my back and trying to get with other dudes on the gay hookup apps, then told me one time “if I did cheat on you, it’s your fault for being such a cunt”. Right. Yeah, that makes sense, you fucking dudes on the low because I’m a cunt. I mean, nothing about that doesn’t make sense, actually.
And that was how every conversation with him went. If he couldn’t tear me down and talk to me like I was the worst person he had ever known, he just didn’t talk to me. He made everything in my life suck, because all I had to look forward to was how terribly he was going to talk to me, and how awful he was going to make me feel. It was the lowest I’ve ever felt about myself in my life.
I can’t explain what it does to your self esteem as a woman, knowing the guy you’re under the impression you’re in a relationship with has stopped sleeping with you so he can sleep with random men behind your back. It’s not a good feeling, it’s not acceptable, and it’s really one of the worst things anyone has ever done to me. I still get sick thinking about it. I will never forgive that shit, not ever.
I see so many couples where the dynamic is similar. It’s pretty easy to spot once you’ve been in that position. The dude is sitting on his ass playing video games all night while she’s cooking, cleaning, raising kids, working, and still has to have the energy to pretend like she wants his fat, lazy ass touching her.
Ugh. No, thank you. Really. No. Thank you.
Listen, if your person always has something negative to say about you, especially in conversations with other people, you really should get a new person. I will never be with anyone who isn’t my biggest fan, that’s what I took from that horrible excuse for a relationship. You shouldn’t either.
Whatever it is you do, whatever your craft is, your person should think you’re amazing at it, and cheer you on. I don’t care if you’re a CPA and they get butterflies when they hear your 10 key tape printing, whatever the circumstances, they should think you’re the fucking bees knees. If they’re not your fan, what the fuck are they doing at your show?
I am sick of these worthless ass people out here who lucked up and got someone great, just so they can sit around treating them like shit, ruining any chance of a normal relationship for them in the future. Take your fucked up asses somewhere and stop ruining good people, you fuckfaces. We’re sick of your shit.
Any of you good people with one of these douchebags, please leave them. Leave them now, I know you think you’re totally horrible, but you’re not. They’re just shitbags who have to rip other people apart so nobody notices what kind of worthless fuck they are. Leave them. Today.
And, I hear you, reader from abusiverelationships. I hear you, and I’m telling you, you should heed everything I’ve just written, because it fits you to a tee.
Recognizing it is the only upside to learning it. I’m really sorry you had to learn it too
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