Is Physical Attraction A Starting Point?
When everyone preaches substance, can physical attraction ever lead to something more?
Recently, I noticed the Era of the Bookworm seems to be coming to a close.
All the nerdy dudes that were the hip, new, vegan, argyle, hipster in-thing have now become the regular old IT guys we know and call for help with our desktops. And, lo and behold, look who’s back!
It’s the hot dude.
The military, tatted, outdoorsman who could fling you over his shoulder and carry you to safety has come back to drag us out of the revenge of the nerdy guy, and I’m glad to see he’s back in season.
For me, they never went out of style. I’ll take a Marine over a Mathmatics major any day of the week.
That doesn’t mean I don’t require substance. It simply means I don’t look at the dude bamming down soyburgers and automatically think that he’s going to bring something more to the conversation than the dude eating a Porterhouse does.
This is because I spent some time with a few new school nerds, and I just wasn’t that impressed. They may have had slick hairdos and those fucking argyle socks they seem to never leave home without, but underneath those accessories, they’re the same old nerds they were pre-trendy 2008.
I don’t see the substance everyone keeps talking about. None of them wanted to discuss poetry and literature with me, because most of them didn’t read for recreation. They didn’t really do much other than play games while yelling into headsets, and talk about being vegan or gluten intolerant, or both.
The hot ass military man we decided we didn’t need is still over there climbing cliff faces, and building fires out of sand and 3 pieces of bark, though. He has stories about places I’ve never gone, and probably am never going. He can carry me if I break my ankle in these tall ass stilettos, and he don’t look bad with his arm draped over your shoulder either.
So what is so wrong with being physically attracted to someone? Does that mean there is nothing of substance between you, or is it just a bonus point ?
I’ve found, in times of relationship meh’s and lows, physical attraction can give you pause. I know when the chips were down, I took a look at one of my smoking hot Marine exes and thought, “now, hold the fuck up, let’s see what he has to say”. Why? Because he was standing there looking like a cross between Adonis and Charlie Hunnam and any woman with good sense would have done the exact same thing.
Ladies, I know we’re supposed to pretend the attractive guy isn’t what we really want, but I’m not certain I want to play along with that charade. What are these underweight, pale, pockmarked nerds doing for me that I can’t call the Help Desk and take care of myself?
Nothing. Absolutely nothing.
If you want to strike up a conversation with the mountain biking fireman you see in the post office, bitch, go for it. The worst thing that can happen is he’s no more than a face, pretty and empty headed, so you have to help him post his letter and then move on with your day. What’s that hurting?
We’ve been avoiding the attractive man, the alleged “Alpha male”, because Elle and Cosmo said nerds were the new manly man, but honey, those rags were wrong. The reason those guys are out there kicking in doors and putting out fires is because they have balls, and they aren’t sitting at a desk clutching their pearls, breathing from an inhaler and hoping the heat from the fire doesn’t fry their servers.
They are out doing kick ass things and then we’re giving them the stank eye in Publix because their rippling biceps are blocking the tofu display.
Uh Uh. This is definitely not the way. Attractive doesn’t equal vapid, just like unattractive doesn’t equal intelligent or interesting. We’ve been misled, and it’s time to get unpied-pipered and get back to the 6’4 Army Ranger who asked if you would like to take a 16 mile hike on Saturday.
Yeah, that’s what they call a date. Deal with it. He’s smoking hot, you’ll live.
Of course, if you’ve found your pair of argyles and made it work, sis, go you. But for the rest of us, I say we get out of these dumb ass cosplay outfits, leave the fucking convention, and go talk to a dude who can literally single-handedly save this entire readership if some shit goes down.
Let’s stop thumbing our nose at the hottie just home from his second tour, and try to get past his gorgeous face for long enough to have a conversation. It’s not his fault he’s attractive. Ask one of the nerds to explain genetic makeup to you, you’ll see I’m right. He was just born that way, God bless him.
Thank you, Jesus, the nerds are out of style.
🙌🙏Hell yeaaahhh! I'm here for it!!😏
It had to be said.
We all want physical attraction.
Still...I say don't discount anyone.
I found a pale skinny guy who, upon first gaze I thought "oh no, poor thing."
But he is so fucking awesome, interesting, hilarious and smart, that now when I look at him I hear that damn choir of angels singing.