Bitchfaces, I have never claimed to actually know what in the hell is going on around me. Let’s be serious, I’m typically oblivious to anything not directly in my crosshairs. I’m single minded, and it makes me an excellent predator. Just ask a dog fighter.
However, I try to know what in the actual fuck I’m doing professionally. I won’t say that I succeed, but I do try. Tonight, I could have been flipped with a feather.
Y’all remember me talking to y’all about interviewing Mark Wynn? The messiah of domestic violence and law enforcement relations? The man in the actual training videos that LEO’s watch regarding domestic violence?
Great guy. Super personable, really excellent at conveying the information and having it sink in. I took the training classes for fun. Just because they may help me help someone later on.
Y’all. Tonight I was rereading The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker. Excellent read, I have it as a PDF, if you want it email me.
I need y’all to read this:
“You probably know more people who’ve tried to kill someone than you realize, as I learned again when Mark Wynn told me a story about his violent (now former) step-father: “My brother and I decided we’d had enough, but we didn’t have a gun to shoot him with and we knew we couldn’t stab him. We had seen a TV commercial for Black Flag bug spray and since it was lethal, we found our father’s wine bottle on the night-stand and filled it with the bug spray. Later, he came into the living room with the bottle and started kicking it back. He didn’t realize he was drinking poison and he finished every drop. Then we just waited for him to roll over on the floor and die.”
What makes Mark Wynn’s story doubly interesting is that he is Sergeant Mark Wynn, a founder of Nashville’s Domestic Violence Division, considered the most innovative in the nation. Solely because his father survived, Mark is not a murderer, and though he attended “crime school,” as he puts it, he did not grow up to be a criminal. (More on why some do and why others do not in chapter 12.)
I assure you, you’ve sat next to someone sometime whose history, if you knew it, would amaze you. They might even have committed the kind of crime we see on the TV news, the kind of act about which we ask, “Who could do such a thing?” Well, now you know... anyone could do it.”
Of course, he’s gone on to federal training (as in, all law enforcement from the feds down are trained by Mark, I tried to tell y’all the man is big timing). I knew of what he was about when I interviewed him, but it never really clicked for me until I just read about him in this book. Mind you, The Gift of Fear is what is often regarded as required reading to be a woman today. I feel everyone should read it at least once.
So, to say I am relieved that I wasn’t aware at the time of the interview is an understatement. I totally would have fucked up and buckled under the pressure, y’all know my anxiety is like, psssssh. But, now, of course, I am just beyond impressed with myself.
I kinda do some shit y’all. Like, I got the classes straight from the dude teaching the classes and the story behind the training process right from the trainer.
Can’t nobody around this bitch say I don’t know my shit. Baby, I got this thing backwards, forward, and slid in from the side. Don’t play with me.
As an aside, I’m still over here working these exit plans. Still have a few of you I know aren’t ready. Just wanted to tell you again, I’ll be here when you are.